Death and other things

Sorry for having been away for so long. Work and other commitments did end up taking some priority for these past months, but I am back and ready to continue posting.

I want to share a video today by the British Humanist Association titled “What should we think about death” narrated by the wonderfully talented Stephen Fry.

Death has been a major part of my thought process this past year; I lost a friend back in December, and another friend this past Tuesday. Both were in their late twenties and both passed suddenly, with no warning. 

I had never been to a funeral till this past December, and the shock of another one was no better. Though I can (for whatever reason) remain uncomfortably stoic, seeing my friends breaking down around me and knowing that my own friend is in a casket being buried before my eyes is a lot to take, still. 

What should we think of death though? In both instances, my friends and I have celebrated the lives of our late friends over laughs, drinks, and heartfelt conversation. Truly, they’re not gone, but survived in the hearts and memories of their friends. 

This post is dedicated to them.

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3 thoughts on “Death and other things”

  1. Thank you. Simply, thank you. It is inevitable that we all should pass away, but we all hope to live out a fuller cycle of life, instead of being cut down early. In the end no one escapes death, yet those who live hold that person’s presence until they too pass. Eventually we will be forgotten by everyone. Our letters, memoirs, and stories may live on and history may keep some of us alive, but no one will really truly know who we are today but those who are around us now. We are not unique to the pain of loosing a friend, or a loved one. I guess that’s what makes living in the here and now so beautiful, and why it’s important to use loss to remember what it is we still have.

    Thank you for posting your thoughts and views on life and the world. And let us use our current regrets to prevent us from creating more for later.

    1. Great post and insightful reply from MB. Death can be used as a lesson to value the important relationships in life in the here and now. Outside of the context of the immediate aftermath of a death, too many hesitate to even discuss their own mortality out of superstition.

      1. TBB – very true. A lot of people tend to suppress their emotions about death in the wake of losing someone. And what kinds of stresses does that bring to ones life? I can only imagine the torment soldiers have to endure when surrounded by death, yet try to maintain new levels of mental stability and control over their deeper emotions.

        For those of us who experience death sparingly (at least in our youth), each passing is fresh and almost equally overbearing. Does it get easier, harder, or vary from person to person? I suppose it may be in the eye of the beholder from the connections we’ve lost, but it’s strange how this natural part of life can be so detrimental to those left behind.

        I’ve spoken with a few people who agree that in one’s passing, those you leave behind should celebrate your life and laugh and remember the person fondly. I’d rather have people having a massive party laughing about good times than to be sitting in quiet spaces crying over their fallen companion.

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